I was having a conversation with a ex colleague few days ago...and he was feeling rather down...
I ask him why..and he told me that.....he find life very meaningless....because he got no kids..and the family is not complete...

The reason..he don't have kids...is because....his wife find that kids...is a burden..and the couple will no longer be able to enjoy couple's life..

Having kids will mean many sacrifice..like not able to go movie....or tour...or anywhere...as and when they like....well..I guess..the wife...is those kind of character..that is rather...fierce and hard...and the husband..do not want to cause aquarrel....so usually he...will keep quiet..if the wife..is unhappy about things...or raise objections to certain things....

hmmm...I guess...all man...should have some stand on their own view points....and it applies to woman as well..sometimes...giving in too much in a realtionship..will just make the opposite party step over you too much....or your viewpoints will no longer....be having any impact on the opposite party's mind...

It really take a lot of effort to make a relationship or marriage work....I am sure....things can be work out...if 2 party are willing to compromise especially....for those that have been married for quite awhile....

Well...but that is not the topic of the day....

The topic of the day is

"Does having a kid really make the family and marriage complete"! without a kid a marriage is not complete"

Well..for me.I love kids since I was a very small child....maybe ever since....I know what is happening around me...I like to be around..my niece and newphews...hmmsince I am in primary school days..and till now...at this age..things has never change....

I yearn to have a family....and a few kids....as I really like them so much.....too bad....at this age...haha..I am not married yet....guess..the day has not come for me yet.

The worst thing is...I am not very healthy by nature....will I be able to concieve....hmm...is really a big question mark....but seriously..haha..

I don't mind going through all the hardship...of the 9months pregnancy..If only I can have a kid of my own....someone that bring me happiness...a big smile when I am home...someone for me to cuddle in my arms...*Isn't that fantastic*...*Day Dreaming*

Well...but the hard fact in life...is I always see newspaper article about couples..unable to conceive...due to ..XXXX,XXXXX,XXX....lots of reason...could be because of the man...could be because of the woman....could be due to stress...when the couples are absolutely healthy.....some go through IVF...serious emotional stress...etc...and still unsuccessful.....I seriously....lend out my hearts to them.....

But out in the society....there are people who give birth..and throw their new born....somewhere....or remove the foteus or dispose somewhere....Isn't that a cruel thing to do? Mind you...that is actually murder...and is killing you own flesh and blood...sigh.....Can't understand.....what is going through in these people's mind....

But someday....if I am lucky enough to get married....and have my own baby...that will be a god send gift......but I guess...everything in life..is predestined.....